To get the total memory of a multi-process you can use a little PowerShell script (taken from
here)
$chrome = get-process chrome -ErrorAction SilentlyContinue
if ($chrome -ne $null)
{
$m = ps chrome | measure PM -Sum ; ("chrome Physical Memory {0:N2}MB " -f ($m.sum / 1mb))
$m = ps chrome | measure WS -Sum ; ("chrome Working Set {0:N0}MB " -f ($m.sum / 1mb))
}
I've found that Working Set seem to give a better indication of real memory occupation.
Of course you can change process name and obtain memory usage for others multi-process applications, like opera, iexplore etc.
(with this system you can also sum several process like Firefox + plugin-container + FlashPlayerPlugin)
Or, you can use
Process Hacker, the latest release (v2.36) include a tray popup window (can be sticky) that show the memory / cpu usage of most active processes,
and for multi-process app show the sum of all process (also for cpu!).