Sweet thanks, I wanted to add, that when I connect the iPod, it appears as a drive letter in Explorer, that's because I set iTunes to allow me to do that, and also have set it not to launch when I plug it in, so on occasion I can use XPlay to access it as well but never both at the same time.
I figured it might be a coding snack idea but I wasn't sure. I know for the Mac there's a script that can run whatever when the iPod is connected instead of just one or another program, that's kind of what I was looking for. So I could sort of automate iTunes and PodPlus or whatever in a certain order so one doesn't mess with the other, and so I can sync the thing without really having to click too many buttons, because sometimes I am in a hurry to get out the door.