One of the lesser-publicized facts of the recent hacking of the Ashley Madison website, is that nearly all of the female accounts were fake -- created by the company to make it look like the site was active and popular: http://gizmodo.com/a...-database-1725558944
This seems to be the standard operating procedure of website these days, where seeming to be popular is a necessary first lie.
I remember when the internet explosion was happening. I checked out a few of the dating sites. Membership was free. But communicating with women cost money. I got these invites from women with pictures. It was obvious that the women who posed for the pictures would not have any trouble getting dates. More like they would have trouble keeping undesirable guys from communicating. I never sent a communication because I was sure the scam was send invites to suckers(er, I mean male clients of the service) to get them to pay to send messages to the babes. Then the babes beg off for some contrived reason. They have to because they are fictional characters. It is not worth the effort to try to get $5 or $10 back so the suckers just cancel the service. Same old scam, new ad copy.
I also used the dating services and still do once in a while. Once you do it, you develop an eye for what is real and what isn't. From my own experiences, 80% of profiles are unreliable. Most of them are straight up fake. if they are not fake, there are pretty significant lies going on regarding their relationship status. There are also a ton of lies in how people represent themselves. So my conclusion after the whole thing was that it's fun to try once in a while, I got some dates out of it. Some were good, most were not. But that's real life also. Ultimately, I felt they didn't make anything easier for me.
Now, on the flip side, I have had friends who have had success with these things, including long committed relationships, and even marriage ina couple of cases. The difference was this...most of them paid for the premium services. if they didn't, then there were factors like this involved...in some non-urban places, it's hard to meet people, or there just aren't a lot of people (small towns). So in those cases, these things work better because there is more of a genuine intention behind it. In a huge urban environment like a los angeles, they don't work well at all IMO. Because the girls are already being hit on constantly in every kind of way...online, offline, gym, street, work, etc. Same with the men to an extent. So for some reason, it just doesn't work well. at least it doesn't make anything easier.
Now, the exception is NY. For some reason, for a guy, NY is great for dating online. i don't know why. LA is terrible, NY is unbelievable.