The Buddha would say that you must learn to detach from that which produces your anger, and that which makes you angry is your greatest teacher at that moment — telling you that you need patience, temperance, and solitude.
i love this approach and will try to remember it.
The way I deal with it, is by having a plan-of-action (written, if you want!) where if I feel the anger building, I immediately - STOP - and look after myself.
also sounds like a really nice idea - a plan of action when getting frustrated. maybe ill post a little list next to my monitor.
Cursing at the top of my lungs at myself and the object of my anger is the only thing that seems to calm me down.
yes - you see this is what i have learned as well, and it's part of the problem. it's like
tourrettes syndrome, or scratching an itch - sometimes it feels like screaming at top of your lungs is the only way to
release the frustration. i have a feeling that by the time it builds up to that point there is no other solution. the answer must be to reprogram yourself not to get to that high frustration level point. there is some "pleasure" in getting mad, and it's almost like part of the brain WANTS to get to that point.
i'm also a big believer in the idea that general stress affects everything and makes me quicker to jump the gun on things, so maybe taking care of other stressors is a good general approach.
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