It's one thing to have an explicit agreement with your young kids that you are going to be monitoring their online/mobile activity in exchange for them getting such a device. But doing it secretly seems like it's teaching them some wrong lessons.
Well, that might be true if
you told them about it, but not if you kept it a secret.
In any event, whilst I used to be ambivalent towards the idea of "spying" on one's children - because I could see points on either side - from personal experience I would have to come down firmly on the side of the case for
spying. I do mean spying
, and that implies that it is to be kept secret
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