i think it should add itself automatically to the list at first run.

That's what it seems to be doing on my system. It's the very first visible icon in my systray, just to the left of the time and date.

Any chance of having an auto-refresh setting, sort of like being able to "tail" a file?

Hm, the actual systray list in Windows (registry) is only updated when the user logs off (or shuts down). Don't want to force the user to log off and back on again, just to update this list...