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Is Cybersex Cheating?

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thunder7:
Ok I have to put my two cent in here.
My girlfriend of 18 months does not care if I cyber with anyone, nor does she care if I look at porn.
She knows I collect bookmarks on many different topics.

How do I feel?
I think if I am chatting with a woman. And it turns to a sexual nature.
And it is more than a adult talk about sexual nature of adults.

Then yes I feel I am cheating!. And my current girlfriend knows how I feel about this. Though her views are different than my own.

She thinks it is ok as long as you do not go and meet anyone. If you do, then your crossing the line.
I ask and "If" I can not please you what are you suppose to do suppress those feelings?.
She said no you can masterbate.
-Someone said something about the Holodeck."???

My ex-girlfriend Judy use to have these little talks with other men.
I trusted her (watch where you put your trust you know-live and learn) She would talk too men, then go meet them!.

I came upon a website called chat cheaters
http://www.chatcheaters.com/

Darwin:
I started reading this thread with very clear views on the topic but realised after reading Zaine's first post that we have a huge problem here: how does one define cybersex? I can't have an opinion if I don't know WTF we're talking about!

Answers.com defines it this way: "Sexual activity or arousal through communication by computer."

Now, what we need to add to this, IMHO, is a distinction between looking at pictures and streaming video - which have taken the place of our fathers' print and 8mm collections - and interacting with other people for arousal. Crap, I've just realised that there is the whole world of webcam voyeurism (for me uncharted territory) needs to considered, too.

I guess for me it comes down to this: if there is an emotional connection made with another living organism then I think that cybersex strays dangerously close to what I would consider cheating.

As Deozaan and Josh point out, though, whether we consider cybersex cheating or not is only one of a host of issues relating to erotica, relationships, and personal well-being. It's really a far, far more complex issue than merely giving a yes or no answer to "is cybersex cheating?".

Carol Haynes:
I was going to make a cheap crack about the effectiveness of peripherals - but I won't.

Perry Mowbray:
I've got to ask: What's the issue? Cybersex or Cheating?

The issue for me would be "Cheating". If I give something that I've promised to give to my partner to someone else, then that is cheating. I don't care what it is: Cybersex, time, money, affection, me...

- Perry

Darwin:
Perry managed to say in four sentences what I failed to say in 5 paragraphs. As I said, it seemed a straight forward question until I started trying to answer it...

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