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I hate Valentine's Day!

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mouser:
Hang in there y0himba and wife, our thoughts are with you.

zridling:
Exactly, y0himba, but I don't need a corporation telling me to go buy something from them as a substitute for my feelings. I can express those anytime and how many times I want, without their guilt-sanctioned reminders that if I don't do something special on that particular day, I'm the bad guy.

SKesselman:
But if you're single, it really stinks. Because you get bombarded with all the junk that goes with it that day. There's got to be a better way to ignore or convert this day into something less manipulative. Suggestions?-zridling (January 20, 2010, 09:37 PM)
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If you're single, consider this:
One year, while browsing the Valentine's Day cards in the drug store, I realized that they make these cards for everyone. Parents, kids, grandparents, friends, in-laws, you name it. So, I started sending my mom & my sister's husband's dad Valentine's Day cards. I'd buy special pens & big fancy cards for them & make a whole big thing of it. I'd sit down and really take my time, and write in them how much I loved them, and why. They loved getting these cards!! More than birthday cards, Christmas cards or any other cards. I could hear it in their voices when they called to say thanks.

Don't be sad...you can change it from a lover's day to a loving day and really take (and give) pleasure in doing so.

SKesselman:
Exactly, y0himba, but I don't need a corporation telling me to go buy something from them as a substitute for my feelings. I can express those anytime and how many times I want, without their guilt-sanctioned reminders that if I don't do something special on that particular day, I'm the bad guy.
-zridling (January 21, 2010, 11:10 AM)
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Valentine's Day really does mean nothing to some people. Many people share your opinion.
As long as both people feel the same way, that's great.

But, if it means anything to a loved one, even if it's only because of stupid social pressures, who cares about commercialism or corporate greed?

In my twenties & thirties, I watched flowers being delivered to my co-workers. Year after year.
But I never once got flowers or a card from my former long-time boyfriend. He cared more about the evils of Hallmark than my feelings.
He knew how much I would have appreciated just a simple card, not to mention flowers, like the other girls at work.
But, it was the whole day he resented, and he just couldn't seem to get past it. Weak.
I guess he loved me, but this was not a good example of it.

If you don't like Valentine's Day, but your loved one does, a selfless, loving gesture would be to drop your politics, give them a little something (flowers, card, whatever) & make their day. You might even end up getting a special surprise, too  ;) .
Granted, it is on the day you may be expected to show love, but other than that, I don't see any harm in it :) . 

mouser:
If you don't like Valentine's Day, but your loved one does, a selfless, loving gesture would be to drop your politics, give them a little something (flowers, card, whatever) & make their day.
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nicely said.  :up:

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