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Official Announcements / Re: Cody's (Internet Citizens) Club Begins!
« on: January 08, 2007, 04:53 AM »
For anyone contemplating making (or changing) an avatar, there's a feature on here that I discovered by accident.  In case you don't know about it, here it is.  Click on "view the supporter yearbook" at the top right of this page.  Then click on the bar for "avatars."  There you can see a display of every avatar that is in use.  It's a beautiful sight.  Also, you can see how many others may already be using the one you are thinking of choosing because it is so uniquely "you," so you can maybe choose something else. :)

Someday, I'd love to see a contest of the original avatars.

Official Announcements / Re: Cody's (Internet Citizens) Club Begins!
« on: January 08, 2007, 04:42 AM »
Okay, how will you know we have completed our tasks and are eligible for the badge?  Self-reporting?  If so, I'm in.  8)

Hi, everyone.  I live in the northeast U.S. and I'm wrapping up a career as a public interest lawyer, writing, speaking, and doing related activities.  Even though I'm not a programmer, I can't live without the community of this site.  Except for this site :D, I spend entirely too much time at the computer.

I have a dear family that includes a computer whizz and a teacher.  Plus a part-time dog that I share with an ex-spouse -- kind of a Thai ridgeback (the dog, not the spouse ;)).

Living Room / Re: What present should we get Cody for xmas?
« on: December 23, 2006, 02:07 PM »
There is another way to do this.

I belong to an internet group that made a commitment to contribute to Medecins sans frontieres  The members make individual donations directly to doctors without borders and then report their contributions to the forum.  So far, they have raised over $200,000.  No money gets sent to the forum site.  Instead, people make direct contributions (getting their own charitable contribution tax deductions, if applicable) and then send an email to the administrator of the forum, so the amount they gave can be added to the total raised by the members.  It gets reported publicly as something like "____________ raised $_____ for ______________ this year."

A prize is given each month to a participant (chosen randomly).

Living Room / Re: What present should we get Cody for xmas?
« on: December 23, 2006, 01:49 PM »
I, too, would contribute to some animal-type charity on Cody's behalf.  While there are many, one possibility that Cody might like is this one, because it focuses on the international needs of migratory birds:  http://www.nature.or...rograms/birds/about/

If we set up a fund with a goal, then mouser could send it along from us once the goal is reached -- or we could just send whatever has been raised by a certain date.  Cody to the rescue.

Living Room / Re: What present should we get Cody for xmas?
« on: December 23, 2006, 12:03 PM »
I would like to see Cody given more travel opportunities -- both for enjoyment and as an ambassador for donationcoder.  Now that he can move about better, he is certain to have a good time.

Thank you, Tom, for that.  I think we'll leave it December 31, since it fits nicely into the making of New Year's resolutions.  This being donationcoder, though, we will be gentle and forgiving.  No penalties for missing the deadline.




Text and Assignment Written by momonan

The deadline for this assignment is December 31.

Week TEN Assignment: Stephen Covey Assignment Part 2

A few weeks ago, we discussed the book “First Things First,” and the ideas espoused by Stephen Covey, principle-centered leadership guru and author of “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.”  This week, we will be exploring the ideas in more detail, providing some examples, and challenging ourselves to continue organizing the way we get things done, but with the focus on fine-tuning WHAT it is that we want to be doing.

First a review of FTF

FTF provides a compass to help us do what is most meaningful, to assure that we lead our lives in ways that best reflect our values.   It doesn’t replace conventional “to do” lists, but guides us so we don’t do the small things first, and leave no time to get to the big things.

The first step to gain focus is to create a mission statement.  This is the overarching document that announces what you want your life to stand for and the principles that will guide you – something to look at every time you sit down to set goals for yourself.

The second step is to identify the important roles you play in your life, such as husband/wife, parent, friend, employer/employee, community member.

The third step is to realize that there are four fundamental areas of each person’s life: physical (food, clothing, shelter), social (relating to other people, belonging, loving), mental (learning, individual growth), and inspirational (having a sense of purpose, making a contribution).  In order to lead a balanced life, it is essential to keep all four of these fundamental areas in mind while executing our action plan.

The fourth step is to establish goals for what we want to accomplish in our lives.  The goals take their direction from the mission statement and address the four fundamental areas of our lives through the important roles we play in our world.

It’s sort of like a business plan for our lives – something we can look over periodically to make sure our “to do” lists are in keeping with our life goals and that the things on our list don’t stress only one aspect of our fundamental needs, while ignoring others that are equally (or more) important.

Your assignment:

Your assignment this week will be to draft your own mission statement (maybe enlist the help of friends and/or family members) and some goals to guide you into the next year.  Then you are to devise one action (something to put on your TODO list) that you can complete the first week in January that advances one of your goals.  Here are some samples to get you started:

Sample mission statements:

A mission statement can be broad and generic, something that merely sums up the principles you want to follow.  Here are some examples:

My mission is to lead a balanced life, to act with integrity and honesty, and to leave things better than I find them.

I will embrace and see each day as not just another day, but one filled with opportunity and excitement.  I alone will choose for myself those endeavors I wish to pursue.

My mission is be a force for positive change and to act in a manner that brings out the best in me and those important to me.

Sample goals:

Using your mission statement as a guide, goals should be developed that include something from each of the fundamental areas of our lives, using the roles that you play in your world.  Here are some examples:

For myself, I want to develop self-knowledge, self love, and self-allowing.  In my family, I want to build healthy, loving relationships in which we let each other become our best selves.  At work, I want to establish a fault-free, self-perpetuating, learning environment.  For myself, I want to develop self-knowledge and self-love.  In the world, I want to nurture the development of all life forms, in harmony with the laws of nature.

To be the person my children look to with pride when they say: “This is my dad.”  To be the one my children come to for love, comfort and understanding.  To be the friend known as caring and always wiling to listen empathically to their concerns.  To be a person not willing to win at the cost of another’s spirit.  To be a person who speaks for the one that cannot, to listen for the one that cannot hear, see for the one without sight, and have the ability to say, “You did that, not I.”  To have my deeds always match my words.

I want to be known by my family as a caring and loving husband and father; to my business associates as a fair and honest person; and my friends as someone they can count on.  To the people who work for me and with me, I pledge my respect and will strive every day to earn their respect. 

I will show love rather than expect love. I choose to make a difference in this world.

Sample actions:

Take my daughter to the children's art museum (or somewhere else I know she likes).
Tell my business associate how much I appreciate the work he/she did on the ______ project.
Take one 20-minute brisk walk.
Ask my wife/husband/mate what work around the house would be most appreciated - and do it.
Tackle the clutter on one shelf of one bookcase.
Buy $10 extra in canned goods next time I go shopping and deliver it to the local food pantry.
Take the trash out/do a load of laundry/clean out the refrigerator -- without being asked.
Ask one friend to go to one movie, or come over for dinner (or some other event).


Living Room / Re: Share your Pandora Stations
« on: December 17, 2006, 10:17 AM »
You all probably know this already, but you can bookmark to favorites particular songs, albums, artists so you can locate them whenever you want, rather than waiting for them to randomly appear later.  Each song also carries a picture of the cover, with link to so you can buy it, see what other songs are on it, and what others sets the artist has made, and with whom.  Really an amazing resource.  PS my most reliable station (that is, consistently gives me the type of music I requested) is the instrumental jazz.  Check it out if you like that genre.

Living Room / Re: Share your Pandora Stations
« on: December 17, 2006, 10:06 AM »

Here are some of my favorites.  Keep in mind that Pandora inserts all kinds of songs that don't really meet the instructions it is given (just in case you might also like that, or because it doesn't really understand what you want).  But, more or less, you will get what you see -- and you can, of course, give thumbs up or down as you go, to refine the station more to your tastes.  Enjoy.

instrumental jazz: http://www.pandora.c...=sh24856577767039742
50s:  http://www.pandora.c...=sh27310747849777918
female jazz vocalists:  http://www.pandora.c...=sh24858055235789566
reggae:  http://www.pandora.c...=sh39567442051261182
blues/R&B:  http://www.pandora.c...=sh25501428451828478
male vocalists:  http://www.pandora.c...=sh25244975954584318

Just to add a little perspective, here's a post from July 2005.  How far we've come!! 
I just noticed that, with new member "nilness," there are now 401 members among us.  Feels good.  Thank you mouser and all you other solid contributors for making a lively, living site out of this!! :-*  I'm proud to be a member, and am looking forward to welcoming number 1,000.

Really refreshing, easy-to-navigate, newsletter again.  Thanks mouser.

Speaking of freezing feathers, if you haven't seen Cody at the keyboard yet, check out the home page.;D  nudone, you've done it again.  Cody always makes me laugh, but is never ridiculous.   It seems like Cody engages in all activities with as much dignity as possible, while getting a kick out of the pleasure it gives us.

Living Room / Re: What present should we get Cody for xmas?
« on: December 08, 2006, 09:44 AM »
nudone, you've outdone yourself on this pic.  It's adooorable!

How about some fancy, able-to-be-activated-by-imaginary-adorable-creatures, recording equipment?  That way, Cody can give us an occasional update (or inspiration) via podcast.

Living Room / Re: Mood Music
« on: December 07, 2006, 12:48 PM »
Okay.  I luuuv it.  Problem though.  Let's say I leave the little diagram that has everything just right, including who is doing what.  I can't get right back there.   It's not the worst thing to start again, but I might want to retrace my steps to remember what I was listening to.  What do you do to get back to a particular set of choices?

@MonkeyMind.  I admit I was a little confused myself.  The way I understand it now is that there are these four fundamental principles, and we should be sure to keep them in mind when deciding how to act or thinking about our plans for the day/week/year/lifetime.  They should guide us in making our mission statement and in establishing our goals.  Our roles are just who we are in relation to others and to the world.  They are the way we play out our goals.  I think the point is that we should set goals that cover all four areas and not concentrate on only one or two, at the expense of the others.

I will be exploring this a little big more in the week to come, along with another assignment.  Maybe it will become clear then (to me, as well :D).  I welcome any other interpretations.

@Tomos   In answer to your question about the fundamental areas covered in step three of the assignment:  According to Covey, there ARE four fundamental areas of human fulfillment (based on his reading of classic, philosophical, and inspirational literature).   His shorthand phrase for them is "live, love, learn, leave a legacy."  The need to live is physical (food, clothing, economic well-being, health).  The need to love is social (relate to other people, belong, be loved).  The need to learn is our mental need (to learn, develop, grow individually).  And the need to leave a legacy is what he calls -- although I don't love that term for it -- our spiritual need (in the sense of to be inspired, have a sense of meaning, purpose, help others, making a contribution).  So that's why we say "Don't neglect any of these areas."

I guess one way to look at these fundamental principles is as beacons for living a balance life.  They should guide your mission statement, inform your goals, and infuse your activities.  Each time we look over our TODO list for the day/week, or review and evaluate the past activities, we should ask ourselves if we have advanced ALL FOUR fundamental areas of our lives -- or are we out of balance by focusing on only one or two, at the expense of the others.

I apologize for the inartful way I organized the assignment, but hope this helps. It helped me, at least, since I don't think I really understood it either.:-[  I'm glad you asked the question

@MikeJoyous.  Can you explain a little about the ideas in "Self Creation"?

@app103 (even though I know you won't return here to read it :P):  Your zen-like agenga says it all. 8)  Makes me wonder why I spent so much time spinning my wheels.  We can probably all tear up our well-intentioned lists and go straight to yours.  When we finish this project, I suggest we distill it all down to app103's agenda list.

Living Room / Re: wallpapers (set 02)
« on: November 04, 2006, 06:29 AM »
@nudone.  I just installed your screensavers, and they are soooo great.    Cute and beautiful at the same time.  I'm cleaning out my DonationCredits for you (gotta get me some more).

 ;D ;D ;D ;D  Verrrry cute.

Living Room / Re: Forum Discrimination....
« on: October 18, 2006, 08:42 AM »
@AdIyhc.  It's great to know you felt free to "vent" on this site.  You join a long list of venters here -- on everything from operating systems, to software that doesn't work, to videos we don't like, to authors we think are bunk, to companies that don't respond to our needs.  We can all relate to your feeling of being ignored on a site (even if we might understand it on an intellectual level).  Glad to know you haven't had that experience here, though. :D

Thanks, App103.  I have many of my own stations, but it's great to hear your special choices (very eclectic mix pf groups).

Find And Run Robot / Re: Find&Run Robot
« on: October 12, 2006, 11:14 AM »
Welcome, Jacquesrober.  You sound like you will fit right in with this community. :Thmbsup:  Hope we hear more from you.

One of the things I appreciate about app103's InstantBoss is that I can set it for 15-30 minutes of work and then an enforced break.  I figure I can hold my breath for that long, then when the break buzzer sounds, I stop even if I'm in the middle of a thought.  During the 5-minute break, I can rush around like crazy (check email, make coffee, straighten up), before the "ah man" calls me back to work (yes, I usually want to get back, so I can at least finish my thought).  Repeat 3 times, then FREEDOM.

I think the hardest part -- and probably the most important -- is the notion of doing it FIRST THING.  How many of us have had it in our minds, since arising, to do that 5 minutes -- all day.  Night closes in and we have hardly thought of anything else all day, but still haven't done it (5 minutes is all, and we haven't even been able to do that).  Two problems with this:  first, we haven't made any progress.  Second, it has occupied our minds all day, interfering with other activities.  This will be the hardest part for many of us.  Gotta have that tea, that email, that news.  Just let me do that first.  THEN I'll get to it.

If I'm going to meet the 5-minute-a-day challenge, I can see I have to chain myself to the bed and not let myself up until I have put in my 5 minutes on THE PROJECT -- and just "thinking about it" doesn't count.

Another thing that I hope will help is to set a small, identifiable goal to reach.  Not, "finish the article," but "finish the paragraph on ..."

I can see that another advantage of doing the 5 minutes first is that you really do have time to do more, if the mood strikes you.  The disadvantage of putting it off -- in addition to it cluttering your mind all day -- is that you really don't have time to continue with it, even if you wanted to.

Well, it's not the first of THIS day, but it's close.  Off to do my 5 minutes . . .

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