I need a program similar to epmon
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http://www.wapti.com/epmon/
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The nice thing about that program is you can right click to choose a single process to get notified about.  The problem is that it's tray icon shows numbers to diplay the CPU cycles its using. 

I want to know when my computer is being monitored by a specific monitoring program and I don't want whoever is watching to know, that I know, that I'm being watched.
Ideally it would use a very inconspicuous icon in the tray (speaker, mouse, power management maybe even a menu of icons to choose from so we'd never get caught) and when the single process that is using any CPU cycles appears/begins, it would notify me by showing another icon that would be inconspicuous (my thought was the outlook express "envelope" icon)
I am a big fan of donation coder and plan to contribute nicely once I get some money :)
Thanks