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arshadbh:
Hi All,

This is my first day here, I'm looking for a software to monitor my 12 year's old duaghter's pc. Is there any software available for free?? But she shouldnt know that i have installed the software and there should not be any evidence in the pc?? i know my needs are too much (im not very good in computer). i heard about "Teamviewer".. what abt it??
please help me

thank you all

40hz:
Welcome to Donation Coder

I think you need to seriously reconsider your strategy regarding monitoring your childrens use of the family PC.

Secretly monitoring use the way want to do it does nothing to engender trust or encourage responsible personal behaviors. It can also have the exact opposite effect on your relationship with your daughter.

The simple fact you want to install this software without her knowledge would seem to indicate  your primary interest is in spying on her activities rather than dissuading her from what you fear she may be getting up to. This raises some ethical issues for me because the only two words I know that are used to describe the practice of covertly watching someone's activities are 'spying' and 'voyeurism.'

As a parent you have a responsibility to raise your child as best you are able. Secretly watching her internet usage is not a good way to accomplish that goal.

If you feel you need to do something to control web access, there are several so-called parental filters that can be used to block sites you may consider inappropriate for her to view. Far better, however, would be to have a a long and serious talk about what the rules are for Internet use in you home - and then let it be known that there are ways to monitor her PC but that you'd rather not feel you ever needed to take such a drastic measures.

If your goal is deterrence, that should be enough. :)

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Note: Be very careful if you do install monitoring software despite what I've suggested. While the jury may be out on whether or not a parent can electronically monitor her child's activities, it's definitely not when it comes to monitoring somebody else's child as part of the process. So while you could claim a right to know what she's texting or file forwarding - you don't have a similiar claim on the responses she is getting in return. So even under the best circumstances, you only have a (debateable) 'legal right' to her half of the conversation.  Since the other party has a "reasonable expectation of privacy" you're getting into some dangerous legal waters. Some parents have been prosecuted for this. The court didn't have a problem with them monitoring their own child. But they had a real big issue with a parent doing it to somebody else's child.

And when Internet usage is composed of something like 90% 'social use' in that age bracket, it's almost impossible not to spy on your own child without spying on somebody else's.  



  
 
 
 

arshadbh:
Thank you for your kind reply. :)

Let me make it clear that its not a psychological issue.. i believe that i have the right to lead her to a good way till she turn 18 and after that she has to face the world alone, I totally understand that she is a individual person she has her own life. Its just that as a father I want to keep a eye on her because some time she spend too much time on pc instead of studying… and I should know with whom she chatting and make sure that she is safe, etc. I’m sorry, I’m not here to get advice from people “how to deal with my daughter”..[b] if anyone can help me with the software please let me know.. [/b] Kind regard :)

ha14:
well if you still need then try keylogger http://www.widestep.com/

pc pandora http://www.pcpandora.com/children/records_all_instant.php

http://www.amplusnet.com/products/index.htm

http://www.spectorsoft.com/products/spectorpro_windows/

http://www.formessengers.com/

http://www.spysoftwareking.com/

cmpm:
Obviously either/or the parent and/or the child is not ready for this '12 year old' to use the net.

I agree with 40hz.

With my kids, as soon as they could reach the keyboard they were using the computers.

I had them using the computer in the family room, till I felt they were ready to have one in their own room.  And sure I'm aware they surfed some porn and cursed, but we talked about those and other subjects regarding the net.

It is a responsibility whether you are a child or parent or anyone.

So there is no need to yell here, arshadbh, to be heard.

And responsible parenting does not stop when the child turns 18, or any age.

Just think of what would happen if this child found out you have been monitoring the child's net usage behind her back for 6 years. Are you going to ask for software that monitors who and what is talked about at school next? I work at a school, and I assure you the net has nothing kids are not saying in person to person 'chats'.

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