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« on: October 06, 2013, 08:08 PM »
I can only say what we did with our kids. And what I did when I was younger.
We (my wife and I), made it a point to be honest with our 2 boys. And made it a point to see that they were and even now to stay honest in our communication and living. And yeah, we all blow it sometimes.
Both of our boys were into the net and computers early in their lives. And yes we found out they were looking at porn and other stuff. Not by spying on them, but we found out anyway. Common sense really. I told them both that I could not stop them from looking at it. I have looked at it too. But, I explained that if you or anyone looks at porn too much it will affect your good judgment and eventually rule your thinking. Same as with most anything I suppose. So, basically, some sound smart thinking about where you want your mind to develop.
We talked and still talk, treating them with respect for privacy and trust. And we expect them to do the same or better with us. We will point out lies if they happen, and expect the same toward us. To speak of lies as not telling the truth, rather then calling anyone a liar. Or for that matter, we have a rule to never do any name-calling. And yeah we all have broken that rule. And still try our best not to, like anything else we try to live.
Far from perfect, but we do enjoy each others company.
Our boys are well past 18, and we still build on what we have developed in our relationships. They are still our children, and always will be. And we still have to live with respect to each other.
We don't have any girls, so I can't comment on that, since I don't have any experience being the father of a girl. May be different or not, I just can't say.